{"id":2226,"date":"2011-02-26T15:53:45","date_gmt":"2011-02-26T15:53:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/?p=2226"},"modified":"2011-03-01T16:14:49","modified_gmt":"2011-03-01T16:14:49","slug":"i-dont-want-to-be-a-pua-i-just-want-to-meet-women-dating-to-relating-for-men-22811","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/i-dont-want-to-be-a-pua-i-just-want-to-meet-women-dating-to-relating-for-men-22811\/","title":{"rendered":"I Don\u2019t Want To Be A PUA, I Just Want To Meet Women \u2013 Dating To Relating For Men \u2013 2\/28\/11"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cDating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is a weekly dating advice column for men with releases scheduled every Monday.<\/p>\n

“Dating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is created and authored by Mr. L. Rx and released exclusively through AssociatedNews.US. Mr. L. Rx is one of the preeminent men’s dating advice gurus, with the second most popular men’s dating advice site on the internet (DatingToRelating.com<\/strong>) and several popular books such as his dating bible for men – Dating To Relating – From A to Z<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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Dating To Relating For Men – Advice By Mr. L. Rx<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of<\/strong> the <\/strong>popular book \u201cDating To Relating \u2013 From A To Z\u201d. <\/strong>Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com<\/strong> and it may be selected for answer in this column. <\/strong>(Sorry all questions can not be answered.)<\/p>\n

Question<\/strong>: I don\u2019t want to be a pick up artist or a player. I just want to be able to go to bars or places, make friends and hang out with a group and they want to hang out with me and date a few girls until I find the girl for me. I want to be included and not be an outsider looking in. How can I do this?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Answer<\/strong>: Well, sounds like you are uncomfortable with women and perhaps people in general. And when you find yourself in such a condition, you have to start out with some basics and learn to get comfortable.<\/p>\n

Learning is best done in gradients. If you try to do too high of a gradient too soon, you will fail.<\/p>\n

So the first step in getting comfortable with people is to go somewhere where people interact and just observe. Observe them interacting and observe what seems to lead to successful interacting and what seems to lead to unsuccessful interacting. Yes, you will be an outsider looking in, but if you learn from your observations you won\u2019t be an outsider forever.<\/p>\n

When I got divorced from my wife who was also my first girlfriend and lover, I was very uncomfortable meeting women. But I forced myself to go out to crowded clubs every night for months. I would go there, stand at the bar, not talk to anyone (unless they talked to me) and just observe people all night.<\/p>\n

Little by little I observed and learned what guys did and said that was successful and what they did and said that was not. I also learned what women seemed to like and not like.<\/p>\n

It actually took me two months before I felt comfortable enough to talk to a woman and apply some of the things I had observed. But when I did, it worked. Then I started talking more and more and finally in another month I had my first successful sexual encounter with a woman I met in a bar.<\/p>\n

Within another month, I totally mastered meeting women at bars and clubs.<\/p>\n

I guess the moral of this story is don\u2019t be afraid of experiencing uncomfortable situations. And don\u2019t be afraid of failure. I have met many guys who are too uncomfortable to go stand at a bar for months being the \u201coutsider looking in\u201d so they stay at home and become the \u201coutsider looking in\u201d for the rest of their lives.<\/p>\n

As long as you learn from \u201cdiscomfort\u201d and \u201cfailure\u201d, discomfort and failure can be two of the best teachers you will ever have. Putting yourself in uncomfortable and failing situations with no intention to observe and learn from them is of course pointless. But putting yourself in the same situations with the intention to learn can lead to the fastest gains possible.<\/p>\n

Of course it is also possible to avoid some of the uncomfortableness and failure by learning from people who have already done it and can pass on their observations and wisdom. Hence, there are people like me.<\/p>\n

Mr. L. Rx<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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