{"id":2880,"date":"2012-07-14T16:42:00","date_gmt":"2012-07-14T16:42:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/?p=2880"},"modified":"2012-07-17T16:43:27","modified_gmt":"2012-07-17T16:43:27","slug":"how-to-move-from-casual-intimacy-into-a-relationship-dating-to-relating-for-men-71612","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/how-to-move-from-casual-intimacy-into-a-relationship-dating-to-relating-for-men-71612\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Move From Casual Intimacy Into A Relationship – Dating To Relating For Men – 7\/16\/12"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cDating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is a weekly dating advice column for men with releases scheduled every Monday.<\/p>\n

“Dating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is created and authored by Mr. L. Rx and released exclusively through AssociatedNews.US. Mr. L. Rx is one of the preeminent men’s dating advice gurus, with the second most popular men’s dating advice site on the internet (DatingToRelating.com<\/strong>) and several popular books such as his dating bible for men – Dating To Relating – From A to Z<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx<\/strong>\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of the popular book \u201cDating To Relating \u2013 From A To Z\u201d. <\/strong>Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com<\/strong> and it may be selected for answer in this column. <\/strong>(Sorry all questions can not be answered.)<\/p>\n

Question:<\/strong> Mr. L. Rx, I already have a casual intimate relationship with a woman, I met about two months ago. It is not serious. We get together about once a week. Problem is I am beginning to have some feelings for her and think I might really like her. Can I develop a real relationship with her? Or is it too late? How would I go about doing this?<\/p>\n

Answer: <\/strong>Well, this is unusual. Most of the time, guys are trying to figure out how to develop a relationship with a girl they haven\u2019t been intimate with. Yes, it is possible but it does present some unique challenges.<\/p>\n

First of all you need to find out where this woman stands. If you guys are having a casual intimate relationship, you need to know if that is something she wants to maintain or if she, like you, is starting to feel different about things.<\/p>\n

Now if you go about this the wrong way, you can scare her off. So be careful. A lot of times people who are coming out of a divorce or a break up want an intimate relationship but they don\u2019t want commitment or feeling like they are getting close to someone. They are trying to protect themselves from being hurt by not getting close.<\/p>\n

Of course this will heal in time, but the time factor can take one, two or even three years for some people. If you really like someone and feel they are worth the wait, you can seal the deal by not putting any pressure on them during this time, maintaining the casual relationship and just being there for them when they are ready for something else.<\/p>\n

Most of the time, these type of things don\u2019t work out because one person is too impatient to wait and puts pressure on the other person who is not ready, so they end up in a spat and a break up.<\/p>\n

Now, from your question we know nothing about this woman. She could be a career \u201cno commitment\u201d type or recently divorced or one or two years down the road after a break up.<\/p>\n

So you need to ask a lot of questions in a neutral sort of way, so that you do not play your hand in case she is not ready for your feelings. The best way to maintain neutrality is to not originate questions out of the blue, but to play off of her originations.<\/p>\n

For example, if she mentions her ex and berates him, you could say, \u201cSounds like you guys didn\u2019t have a very good relationship.\u201d If she says, \u201cYeah,\u201d you could come back with something like, \u201cSo does that mean you hate all men, or do you think he was just a bully?\u201d<\/p>\n

If she says, \u201cNo, I don\u2019t hate all men, blah, blah, blah,\u201d then she might be more ready for a relationship then if she says \u201cYeah.\u201d<\/p>\n

The conversations you will have with her will be very situational so I can\u2019t tell you what to exactly say and ask in this short column, but perhaps you get the idea. What you don\u2019t want to ask are questions about you and your relationship with her. That is not neutral and could get you in trouble if she is not ready for anything serious.<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t say things like, \u201cHow do you feel about our relationship?\u201d or \u201cI am starting to have feelings for you,\u201d etc. until you know if she is ready and can handle this type of topic. If she is not, you just need to keep informed of her general feelings about men and relationships until she is ready to get serious with someone again.<\/p>\n

Mr. L. Rx<\/p>\n


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