{"id":2899,"date":"2012-07-28T16:39:16","date_gmt":"2012-07-28T16:39:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/?p=2899"},"modified":"2012-07-31T16:48:47","modified_gmt":"2012-07-31T16:48:47","slug":"not-cocky-and-not-funny-well-maybe-a-little-bit-funny-dating-to-relating-for-men-73012","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/not-cocky-and-not-funny-well-maybe-a-little-bit-funny-dating-to-relating-for-men-73012\/","title":{"rendered":"Not Cocky And Not Funny \u2013 Well Maybe A Little Bit Funny – Dating To Relating For Men – 7\/30\/12"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cDating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is a weekly dating advice column for men with releases scheduled every Monday.<\/p>\n

“Dating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is created and authored by Mr. L. Rx and released exclusively through AssociatedNews.US. Mr. L. Rx is one of the preeminent men’s dating advice gurus, with the second most popular men’s dating advice site on the internet (DatingToRelating.com<\/strong>) and several popular books such as his dating bible for men – Dating To Relating – From A to Z<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx<\/strong>\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n

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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of the popular book \u201cDating To Relating \u2013 From A To Z\u201d. <\/strong>Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com<\/strong> and it may be selected for answer in this column. <\/strong>(Sorry all questions can not be answered.)<\/p>\n

Question: <\/strong>Mr. L. Rx, I am attracted to this girl at the campus store. She is really hot. But she is really cold to me. I don\u2019t think she has a boyfriend, but whenever I say, \u201cHi,\u201d with a big smile, it doesn\u2019t work. She just gives me a cold stare and says, \u201cHow can I help you?\u201d What do I do?<\/p>\n

Answer: <\/strong>Well, if you have been following my writing, you would know that my recurring theme is that people have different personalities and different personalities require different approaches.<\/p>\n

A \u201cHi\u201d with a smile might work on most people but it won\u2019t work on all personalities. When I was a young man I did door to door sales. \u201cHi\u201d with a big smile and a funny joke is how I opened most conversations door to door. It worked like a charm in middle class neighborhoods.<\/p>\n

One day, however, they dropped me in an upper middle class neighborhood. And I was shocked. My \u201cHi\u201d with a big smile got me a lot of \u201cfear\u201d reactions with doors slammed quickly in my face. These were upper middle class very-good-looking women that were doing the door-slamming fear-reaction.<\/p>\n

I was a skilled salesman by this time however as I had started door to door sales at eleven years old. I learned quickly to \u201cmimic\u201d people when I didn\u2019t have the right presentation or my presentation or personality wasn\u2019t doing well.<\/p>\n

So I quickly changed my strategy with these upper middle class \u201chot\u201d housewives and I mimicked their style. Instead of a \u201cHi\u201d and a smile, I said \u201cHi\u201d and told them the same joke but in a very \u201cdry\u201d deadpan manner with absolutely no smile or expression at all.<\/p>\n

Instead of slamming the door in my face, they all laughed at my joke, opened the door and invited me in. You see, to some personalities, and in some environments, a \u201csmiling face\u201d is not to be trusted.<\/p>\n

I have even used the same strategy when approaching women in stores or on the street, such as in your situation. For example, there was this woman who was really hot ( like a 9.5\/10) that worked at a Louis Vuitton store in the mall. I went by and targeted her for a slow multiple-come-back approach. I initially approached her with a smile and a \u201cHi\u201d and friendly conversation (which works on most mall store employees).<\/p>\n

She talked to me but was very cold and not friendly at all. After about three times, I realized she was not the right personality type for that approach and I changed to my deadpan \u201chumor\u2019 with no smile. I caught her out in front of a \u201cfast food\u201d place eating a cheap burrito or something and said in my best deadpan voice, with no smile and an extremely deadpan expression, \u201cSo that\u2019s how you spend your time, huh, eating cheap burritos.\u201d<\/p>\n

She laughed and laughed and laughed. And the next time I walked into her store she was all over me with conversation. She would practically tell me her life story when I would go into the store. Best of all, she asked me out, after a couple of more visits. She also changed her attitude. I didn\u2019t have to keep up the deadpan stuff. I was able to go back to being cheerful with a smile.<\/p>\n

But not all personalities are like that. Some women you have to keep up the deadpan routine forever. (Like the upper middle class housewives, for instance.) In this case, however, she was one of those really hot women who just didn\u2019t trust \u201csmiling\u201d men who approach them. So she had her defenses up but this wasn\u2019t really her personality. Once I got past that point with the deadpan routine, I could put the smile back on and she could be herself.<\/p>\n

Like I said, everyone is different. The way you figure it out is with a lot of experience and a lot of keen observation. And if you are short on experience and observation, then get yourself a copy of \u201cDating To Relating \u2013 From A To Z\u201d.<\/p>\n

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