{"id":2945,"date":"2012-09-08T23:51:00","date_gmt":"2012-09-08T23:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/?p=2945"},"modified":"2012-09-10T23:52:18","modified_gmt":"2012-09-10T23:52:18","slug":"how-to-use-rapport-when-meeting-women-or-on-a-first-date-dating-to-relating-for-men-91012","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/how-to-use-rapport-when-meeting-women-or-on-a-first-date-dating-to-relating-for-men-91012\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Use Rapport When Meeting Women Or On A First Date – Dating To Relating For Men – 9\/10\/12"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nQuestion:<\/strong> Mr. L. Rx, what is rapport and how do I use it when meeting women?<\/p>\n

Answer:<\/strong> Rapport!<\/p>\n

Well, our trusted Wikipedia says:<\/p>\n

\u201cRapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective: being “in sync” with, or being “on the same wavelength” as the person with whom you are talking.\u201d<\/p>\n

Why should you establish rapport when meeting women for the first time? Well it is just one more of those things you can do to create attraction. Rapport works more on the subconscious level, whereas some of the other things I have taught you \u2013 like listen to the woman \u2013 work on a more conscious level.<\/p>\n

How do you establish rapport?<\/p>\n

Well, there are three ways that I go about establishing rapport with a person whether in a sales situation, a social situation, or on a date.<\/p>\n

1) Body Language<\/p>\n

To establish rapport I mimic the person\u2019s body language. If they sit up straight, I sit up straight. If they lean back, I lean back. If they lean in, I lean in.<\/p>\n

Posture is one, but there are others. If they are uptight and cold and distant, I am uptight and cold and distant. If they start warming up, I start warming up. If they talk with their hands, I talk with my hands. Get it! Don\u2019t be too obvious. This is subtle. It drives in the \u201ccommonality of perspective\u201d or the \u201cin sync\u201d.<\/p>\n

2) Vocal Language<\/p>\n

If someone starts off talking about casual conversation, I start and continue the conversation at the same level. If they start off getting very personal and open, I become very personal and open with my conversation. I also use a similar style of talking if possible \u2013 soft and polite, if they are soft and polite, loud and boisterous, if they are loud and boisterous.<\/p>\n

3) Emotional Mimicking<\/p>\n

If someone is cheerful and friendly, I am cheerful and friendly, if they are angry and sullen, I become angry and sullen. If they are antagonistic and bothered, I become antagonistic and bothered. If they are fearful or grief ridden, I become fearful or grief ridden.<\/p>\n

Now using rapport is my tendency, but I only do these things when I want to use rapport. Sometimes I don\u2019t use rapport. Some people are attracted to \u201csimilarity\u201d (that is when rapport works) others are attracted to opposites (that is when rapport can back fire on you).<\/p>\n

How do you know when or when not to use rapport?<\/p>\n

Well, I observe the attraction factor. When I meet people, I am at first just me \u2013 my natural self. If that works then I don\u2019t change a thing. I just be \u201cme\u201d. Now sometimes \u201cme\u201d will naturally be in rapport with the person I am with, other times it doesn\u2019t matter as attraction is there anyway.<\/p>\n

But when the attraction factor is low, or the personality in front of me is not very similar to my personality, I first make a decision. I ask myself if I want to get to know this person better (because if I don\u2019t like them \u2013 no use wasting any time on rapport). If I do, I will use rapport and the attraction factor starts going in.<\/p>\n

Rapport is one of those things that seems to work for me when all else fails. Once I establish rapport I say the same things and do the same things I would normally say and do. I just say them in a way that is consistent with the rapport I have established.<\/p>\n

Mr. L. Rx<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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