{"id":3351,"date":"2013-08-03T20:36:17","date_gmt":"2013-08-03T20:36:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/?p=3351"},"modified":"2013-08-09T20:38:44","modified_gmt":"2013-08-09T20:38:44","slug":"men-and-commitment-dating-to-relating-for-men-8513","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/men-and-commitment-dating-to-relating-for-men-8513\/","title":{"rendered":"Men And Commitment \u2013 Dating To Relating For Men \u2013 8\/5\/13"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cDating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is a weekly dating advice column for men with releases scheduled every Monday.<\/p>\n

“Dating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is created and authored by Mr. L. Rx and released exclusively through AssociatedNews.US. Mr. L. Rx is one of the preeminent men’s dating advice gurus, with the second most popular men’s dating advice site on the internet (DatingToRelating.com<\/strong>) and several popular books such as his dating bible for men – Dating To Relating – From A to Z<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN
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Dating To Relating For Men – Advice By Mr. L. Rx<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of<\/strong> the <\/strong>popular book \u201cDating To Relating \u2013 From A To Z.\u201d <\/strong>Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com<\/strong> and it may be selected for answer in this column. <\/strong>(Sorry all questions can not be answered.)<\/p>\n

Question:<\/strong> My girlfriend is always getting upset with me because she wants to get married, right away, and I don\u2019t. I am unsure about her for a variety of reasons, but when I try to tell her what the problem is she won\u2019t listen. She says I am a typical man with commitment problems, and that is the problem. How do I handle this?
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\nAnswer: <\/strong>There is a myth in our society that men have \u201ccommitment\u201d problems. Sure some men do, but probably no more men than women.<\/p>\n

The real problem is that a lot of guys want a sexual relationship so bad that they will compromise their integrity and will have a relationship with a woman they are really not ultimately interested in just to get sex. In other words, a lot of guys lie about how attracted they are to a woman.<\/p>\n

Ultimately this leads to \u201cnoncommittal\u201d but it is more a situation of \u201c I can\u2019t commit to you\u201d for most guys rather than \u201cI can\u2019t commit.\u201d The myth then is conveniently used by guys as a good reason to draw the sexual relationship on a little longer, or to have the woman break up with the guy.<\/p>\n

So we end up with a myth that \u201cguys can\u2019t commit\u201d which is a lie, and the unseen truth that most women are unaware of is that \u201cguys will lie and compromise their integrity just for sex.\u201d<\/p>\n

Most women on the other hand are not as needy as guys sexually and don\u2019t compromise what they are looking for in a partner as frequently as men, just to have sex.<\/p>\n

So you my friend are not typical as you seem to be willing to dispel the myth and at least tell the girl the truth of why you can\u2019t commit to her.<\/p>\n

The fact that she won\u2019t listen and wants to dispel your comments as just having to do with the myth, indicates she is a little insecure and is perhaps afraid of what you might have to say.<\/p>\n

So you have to approach the topic in a less threatening way then perhaps you are now doing.<\/p>\n

One way might be to just \u201cgo with the flow\u201d. If she wants to believe you are a typical guy who \u201ccan\u2019t commit\u201d don\u2019t resist that concept and tell her what is wrong with her (which might be threatening to her) instead just say \u201cyou are right\u201d you are a typical guy who has problems committing to anyone. But say you want to change and need her help.<\/p>\n

Tell her you have considerations that you have to overcome, and even though they may be silly and contrived, that you need to discuss them and overcome them in order to overcome your fear of committal. You need her to be sensitive and genuinely discuss your considerations.<\/p>\n

If you set it up this way, you might get her to listen and discuss your true feelings. There are probably many ways to soften the impact of what you have to say and get her to listen, but whatever you do you have to take the focus off of criticizing her to just getting her to discuss your feelings.<\/p>\n

Mr. L. Rx<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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