{"id":3482,"date":"2013-11-23T00:53:45","date_gmt":"2013-11-23T00:53:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/?p=3482"},"modified":"2013-11-27T00:55:43","modified_gmt":"2013-11-27T00:55:43","slug":"what-to-say-on-the-first-phone-call-dating-to-relating-for-men-112513","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/what-to-say-on-the-first-phone-call-dating-to-relating-for-men-112513\/","title":{"rendered":"What To Say On The First Phone Call \u2013 Dating To Relating For Men \u2013 11\/25\/13"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cDating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is a weekly dating advice column for men with releases scheduled every Monday.<\/p>\n

“Dating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is created and authored by Mr. L. Rx and released exclusively through AssociatedNews.US. Mr. L. Rx is one of the preeminent men’s dating advice gurus, with the second most popular men’s dating advice site on the internet (DatingToRelating.com<\/strong>) and several popular books such as his dating bible for men – Dating To Relating – From A to Z<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of<\/strong> the <\/strong>popular book \u201cDating To Relating \u2013 From A To Z.\u201d <\/strong>Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com<\/strong> and it may be selected for answer in this column. <\/strong>(Sorry all questions can not be answered.)<\/p>\n

Question: <\/strong>What do you say to women when you are calling them for the first time after meeting them?<\/p>\n

Answer:<\/strong> I speak to women on the phone the same way I would if I were talking to them live. Basically I try to \u201cqualify\u201d them to see if I am interested in pursuing anything further with them.<\/p>\n

It is basically an interactive conversation based on what I ask and what comes up in response to my questions.<\/p>\n

I let my own interest guide me. I don\u2019t have a set patter of questions. I ask what I want to know about a person and as I ask more and more, usually more things come up that I want to know.<\/p>\n

I try to get a feel for their personality and their interests to see if I feel they are compatible with me.<\/p>\n

Women can tell I am qualifying them, and they like that. It shows that I am sane and not needy. If I am interested in them they will feel a little special as they know that I am not interested in just \u201canyone.\u201d<\/p>\n

I ask very common questions like, \u201cWhat do you do?\u201d, \u201cWhat area do you live in?\u201d, \u201cWhere are you from originally?\u201d to get the conversation going, then I ask questions about their answers after that. \u201cDo you like doing that?\u201d, \u201cIs that fun?\u201d, \u201cHow long have you lived there?\u201d<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t ask all these types of questions in a row. Usually I will ask one of the above and then their response leads me into other questions. When I exhaust a line of questioning, then I will ask another basic question.<\/p>\n

I try to listen to what the woman says as much as possible and qualify her by asking more questions. Talking about myself doesn\u2019t qualify her and I do that as little as possible – only in response to her questions.<\/p>\n

So for example, if I ask a woman, \u201cWhat do you do?\u201d and she says, \u201cI am an accountant.\u201d I might then ask, \u201cHow do you like that?\u201d If she says, “I like it a lot”, I would probably come back with, \u201cReally, why is that?\u201d<\/p>\n

I try to ask a lot of open-ended questions so the woman can talk a lot and I can see what kind of personality and interests she has.<\/p>\n

This is really not difficult stuff, especially if you let your own interest and curiosity guide you. Just ask the things you want to know, listen a lot and ask some more.<\/p>\n

Women like guys who listen. I close 90% of my first dates for a second date so listening is not something that will ever hurt you.<\/p>\n

Mr. L. Rx<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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