{"id":3496,"date":"2013-12-07T20:40:15","date_gmt":"2013-12-07T20:40:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/?p=3496"},"modified":"2013-12-10T20:42:21","modified_gmt":"2013-12-10T20:42:21","slug":"settling-the-bane-of-all-relationships-dating-to-relating-for-men-12913","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/associatednews.us\/content\/settling-the-bane-of-all-relationships-dating-to-relating-for-men-12913\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cSettling\u201d \u2013 The Bane Of All Relationships \u2013 Dating To Relating For Men \u2013 12\/9\/13"},"content":{"rendered":"

You may use the \u201cDating To Relating For Men\u201d column in your newspaper, magazine, or website royalty free <\/strong>as long as you do not edit out any information, and you make sure the attribution (AssociatedNews.US) and the copyright (2013 Dating To Relating, Inc.) are clearly legible within the column. You may only use the column royalty free in your newspaper, magazine, or website. It may not be used in any books, book compilations or collections without our express permission.<\/p>\n

\u201cDating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is a weekly dating advice column for men with releases scheduled every Monday.<\/p>\n

“Dating To Relating For Men\u201d<\/strong> is created and authored by Mr. L. Rx and released exclusively through AssociatedNews.US. Mr. L. Rx is one of the preeminent men’s dating advice gurus, with the second most popular men’s dating advice site on the internet (DatingToRelating.com<\/strong>) and several popular books such as his dating bible for men – Dating To Relating – From A to Z<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN
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Dating To Relating For Men – Advice By Mr. L. Rx<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of<\/strong> the <\/strong>popular book \u201cDating To Relating \u2013 From A To Z.\u201d <\/strong>Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com<\/strong> and it may be selected for answer in this column. <\/strong>(Sorry all questions can not be answered.).<\/p>\n

Question:<\/strong> I have tried other dating systems with some success. The problem is I am successful with women that are not the kind of women that I would want to marry. How do you successfully meet the kind of woman you ultimately want to marry?<\/p>\n

Answer: <\/strong>Compromise or \u201csettling\u201d is probably the bane of all relationships. Meeting lots of people and qualifying the people that you meet is the cure for \u201csettling.\u201d<\/p>\n

For example, a guy\u2019s ideal woman that he wants to marry is say, “a beautiful girl who has a friendly outgoing personality and wants to travel all around the world.” Once someone knows the type of person he or she ultimately wants, he or she should put energy into defining how they would meet such a person.<\/p>\n

In the above example, we would ask, \u201cWhere do beautiful girls hang out?\u201d \u201cWhat do beautiful girls do?\u201d \u201cWhere do friendly outgoing people tend to hang out, and what do they do?\u201d \u201cWhere do people who like to travel tend to hang out and what kinds of things do they do?\u201d<\/p>\n

Ask tougher questions. \u201cWhere would someone who is beautiful, outgoing, and likes to travel hang out? What kinds of things would they be doing?\u201d<\/p>\n

Then get busy putting yourself in those places and doing those things that these type of people would do. This is how you will find people who are actually \u201cprospects\u201d \u2013 people who potentially have all the attributes you are looking for.<\/p>\n

But finding prospects is not enough. You have to qualify them when meeting them. Perhaps she IS beautiful, but that is not enough. Observe what kind of personality she has and ask her about traveling.<\/p>\n

Even if she is beautiful with a great outgoing and friendly personality that won\u2019t be enough if she doesn\u2019t share your dream of traveling all around the world.<\/p>\n

The only mistakes you can make are not defining where to meet these kinds of people in the first place and \u201csettling\u201d for people who only have one or two of the many attributes you are looking for.<\/p>\n

I usually don\u2019t call my first dates a date at all but a meeting. I am meeting someone to qualify them to see if they have all the attributes that I am looking for in a person. I won\u2019t even have a second \u201cdate\u201d or meeting unless they have all the attributes necessary for me to continue seeing them.<\/p>\n

Must guys seem to be too scared or nervous on a first date to think of qualifying anyone. But don\u2019t make that mistake. The more dates you have with someone who really isn\u2019t a prospect, the greater the chance is that you will go into agreement with that situation and compromise your integrity and \u201csettle.\u201d<\/p>\n

It is totally ok to \u201cmeet\u201d people. But qualify them when meeting. And if they don\u2019t qualify instantly \u2013 move on. Life is funny. It seems to give us \u201ctests\u201d or \u201cchallenges.\u201d Life tries to trick us into settling or compromising our integrity.<\/p>\n

Life beats most people. They settle and whether a day, a year, or a lifetime later they live to regret it. But when you refuse to settle, sooner or later life \u201cgives up\u201d with the tests and challenges and hands you what you really want on a silver platter.<\/p>\n

So meeting people, qualifying them, and keeping your integrity, my friend, is how you will successfully meet the kind of women you want to marry.<\/p>\n

Mr. L. Rx<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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